LRT is my 180

[AvgGuy]

This has NOT been a good day.

Do I talk to D? I can't tell her about DBing tho.
Also, she's not the most mature 22yo either.

W can get whatever info she wants out of D22.

I'm just sooooo ticked right now!
Ugh

[AvgGuy]

Off to opening night of men's small group at church.
Hopefully meet some good guys and settle myself down.

I wish I could help D22 see where I'm coming from, but she won't get it and it will get back to W.

I mean, she doesn't hate me or anything. I just look like more of a jacka$$ to her than I really am, I bet. We get along tho, esp if I buy her food...

[AvgGuy]

I'm beginning to get the feeling this NC will become a game of chicken, or a staring contest if you prefer.

She has always been way more stubborn than me. She will win this. I will blink. IDK when, but I will. And she knows it.

This is going to become, 'at what point do I reach out, why, and how?' And 'have I waited long enough that maybe her heart has softened just a little?' vs 'have I waited too long and she's completely tuned into the new life?'

I want to vomit.

[joejoe1]

Get some no doze and red bull. Don't blink and stay steady. Show her you can outlast her. It's your time.

[Parkema]

AveGuy,

Mate we all understand how hard it is to detach and go NC trust me I have a whole heap of issues with it BUT how do you win this "game"? I'm surprised the vets haven't chipped in!

Those 3 magic letters GAL...

Get out do ANYTHING, I walk ALOT go to the cinema and just recently spend time away overnight a massive 180 for me.

Plan in advance, use this to keep your mind off your W what else have you got to do? Enjoy the time and before you know it the pursue cycle will be reversed with you now the more interesting individual.

You can do this.

Mark.

[AvgGuy]

JJ and Park, ty for the encouragement.

My GALing is going ok. I go for a lot of walks also. Watch a lot of movies also. But those aren't really 180s. I've been connecting with some friends more often. Joined the men's group at church which will include a few outings with the guys there. Getting out with other people is more of a 180 for me. Still resting my elbow before resuming my lifting efforts. Seeing my D's as much as I can but they have busy schedules. Played cards last night w D22 and her BF. Seeing her for lunch today too. Food is the way to her heart lol.

I've thought about going away for a weekend, but not sure where to yet. And I'd have to be able to do it quite inexpensively as my budget is tight.

LimboLand bites is all, I guess...

[AvgGuy]

W is supposed to be contributing to the account for shared expenses, but the dollars are dwindling in there right now.

Do I say something about that? I had written a reminder about that on the note I left W with her mail/bills, but those are still at the house and she hasn't seen it yet. I've still got access to all the savings accounts. Do I just start pulling from savings acct if she stops contributing to the shared acct? (One of those savings accounts is some inheritance money of hers; do I pull from that one?)

[joejoe1]

I would leave her inheritance money a lone. If you are still married than all accounts are community property.

[AvgGuy]

My bigger question is, do I contact her regarding the funding of the account, or is maintaining NC more important?

[Maika]

The money stuff, along with some other things, I consider business conversations. You need to have them because things need to keep moving. I would just have that conversation, whatever method you prefer. It needs to be dealt with. You can go back to NC after that. It's not going to impact that.