New to the journey and thank you.

[Kylo]

AS, I realize my writing needs more clarification. The validation was separate from the encouraging her about the job. A lot of "I understand" and "I can see how you feel that way".

The arguing I mentioned was a comment on our past. We didn't argue during this discussion. We really don't talk enough TO argue. Before BD we mostly argued strenuously, and emotions were high; but on the rare instance when we would discuss something calmly, I was very understanding of her point of view. Come to think of it, I can't remember a time when she said anything remotely close to "I can understand how you feel" I wonder if she ever could relate to how I feel.