She said something eles that was weird. She said, "I get it, I disrespected you, now you disrespecting me, and it don't feel good.".
I didn't tell her where I was going or what I was doing. So on her own assumptions, she thanks I'm out doing something with another woman.
This confuses me, she said she didn't want to be in the marriage, why would anything I do disrespect her?
She does not want you for a H, but she wants what you can provide for her. A few examples are wanting you to be available to do whatever she may need at any particular time. She may use you for a maintenance worker for whatever needs repaired or fixed (even if she gets another place to live); vehicle maintenance; run errands for her; keep the children on her scheduled days to have them; act as a listener (counselor) and to comfort her; and any financial benefits she can get from you, be her BFF, etc.
She does not want to be in a MR with you, but she expects to receive benefits the M would provide. She does not want to be your W. However, she does not want another woman to replace her position in your heart. Everything is about "her". The WW thinks her H will forever pine away for her. Therefore, if she sees her H moving on in his life and being happy without her........the jealousy comes out. She doesn't want her H, but she doesn't want anyone else to have him. She asks questions about where he is going, when, and with whom. Although she wants privacy in her life......she will ask nosy questions about her H's GAL. She loses certain rights and privileges she had as your wife........and knowing details about your GAL, is one of them.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
