I agree.....what I have been struggling with lately is what to deny her access on. For example, if she wants to file about doesn't have the money because it is tied up in an account she doesn't know how to access to I give her access? I always controlled all of our finances so she really knows nothing.
I know most everyone says don't finance anything but to your point I think it is a slippery slope.
I will say I have not been vindictive about anything and everything that has happened so far she has agreed to. We sat down together before she moved out and put budgets together for both of us.
I also know she is feeling the financial pinch because she came to me last week asking for money.
