JMSTL thread-Part 5-What a beautiful GAL

[joejoe1]

Jm,

You are right, striking that balance I know is a key ingredient. We were discussing the LL and 180s yesterday and how they are opposite of each other.

But I also think, that our Ws know we care, we have told them on too many occasions already. I'm of the mindset, that they have to fully be of the mindset that they are losing us. The only way is tough love.

Caring: displaying kindness and concern for others. We can do these things and still fully detach. We can be kind, we can show concern, when concern is truly needed. Each Sitch is different, but a total lost IMO must be felt. It's hard to put a person you love in this position.

I don't know if you are a Christian, but the story of the Prodigal son comes to mind in this situation. One key area and I will highlight is what I know our spouses must have.

Verse 17 is what we need to happen to our WW. This type of behavior has been going on for centuries and the same process has to happen on both ends.

The Parable of the Lost Son
11 Jesus continued: “There was a man who had two sons. 12 The younger one said to his father, ‘Father, give me my share of the estate.’ So he divided his property between them.

13 “Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living. 14 After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need. 15 So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs. 16 He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.

17 “When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! 18 I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’ 20 So he got up and went to his father.

“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.

21 “The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’

22 “But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. 23 Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. 24 For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate.