Still here. Still not detached...

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My W seems to think that the kids are just fine and "don't even notice" when one of us isn't here.

My W thinks the same way. She also like to add that once we have moved on with our lives that our S will be so much better off and will finally get to see both of his parent happy. My S is a only child and we have a pretty tight bond. He has confided in me on multiple ococcasions and is pretty emotional. He puts on an act in front of the W. I think he's afraid to show her its bothering him.