Despite filing for D, my W still hasn't decided on when she's going to tell our S. I made it clear to her that we have to do it together. In an effort to be civil and provide my S with a family outing outside of church I have invited my W to a couple of events with my S. Not surprisingly she either ignored my invitation or gave a lame excuse to not attend. Mind you, I didn't care if she came, I just wanted to give her an opportunity to spend quality time with our S.
A few days later I found her phone unlocked and noticed that she continues to text her paramour on a daily basis. She told him that my invitations were "unwanted advances"! Naturally, she failed to tell him that I had simply invited her to a family event with her son. It's amazing how she manipulated this. To what purpose? To make the OM jealous? I don't get it.
I don't think she's manipulating anything. I think she is sharing how these come across to her. It's pretty standard. Have you read about the pursuit and distance dynamic?
She is perfectly free to spend quality time with her son. You don't need to invite her.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
