I'm trying to understand what you are asking. From what I perceived you wanted specifics from your wife on what you needed to do to show her you are happy. But what is trying to be conveyed to you is that, you have to become happy and your wife will notice. A unhappy person can smile and laugh. People can tell if a person is truly happy, and that's the message here. If you truly become happy, you won't have to tell any person, not even your wife, everyone will notice.
In the very beginning of the S, I tried to applied the techniques from the book, and tried to ask for specific actions, so that solutions could be developed to address those issue.
It was either in the book or one of MWD's talks that specifically addressed the whole 'I want you to be happy' issue and how that was extremely vague, and to get more specific.
I don't ask her what I need to do now. She is done. She has stated that NO MATTER WHAT I DO, she is done. Completely done and never coming back.
So I don't ask her, how will you know I am happy. I am doing what makes me happy. I have 180'd my negative attitude, and almost everyone that spends any time around me has noticed it.
The problem I have right now, is showing W my positive attitude, while at the same time giving her 'something to miss' by being short on words, etc.
So I have been monitoring, and I need to adjust my approach, and find what works best.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
