KGirl - new life #3

[KGirl]

I went back to my IC after.... over a year away, specifically to try and wrap my head around this "why am I always chasing/attracted to/stay with people who are unavailable/avoidant/no good for me/don't meet my criteria, even when I logically recognize they are no good for me??" I don't feel like she was particularly interested in addressing that, at least digging into the why. Very solution-focused, but I feel like I know exactly what I need to do, I just am choosing not to do it, (ignoring red flags, not sticking with my personal "rules" about who to engage with or not) and I want to try and find out WHY so hopefully I stop doing it. Instead we mostly talked about goals/things to do, which I feel like I already know. "get out of relationships that aren't serving you; stop doing all of the work and see what happens; when you see a red flag don't overlook it in favor of the positives; trust your intuition" etc. Yes, I know. I know I know I know all of these things. But still feel like I'm no closer to not doing them. I feel like I could just google stuff about wanting to be a fixer/saver, having low self-esteem, etc. and that's more insightful than IC!