I am happier now than I have been since the BD, GAL’ing and realising this situation is totally controlled by her is helping me move forwards.
Good, sounds like you are adjusting to your "new normal". I hated when the therapist would say that to me (that I needed to find my "new normal"), but with the benefit of hindsight I really understand the importance of it. It's human nature to fight change, we want the status quo. When we're slammed with BD we want to go back to "normal". But no matter whether we recon or not, the old normal is gone and we've got to find our "new normal".
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I feel I’ve had a bit of an epiphany where I now realise that this is my life for the foreseeable future, I’ve been give the worst experience in my life by the same person who gave me the best and is something I have to live with but the time will be used to better myself and CONTINUE to fight for what’s right trying to RC and bring my family back together it’s just that now I can face the inevitable knowing I continue to do everything in my power to succeed but will be okay either way.
Awesome, that's a great attitude to have about it!
