Oh yeah, life goes on...

[Sotto]

Ah, you guys are the best - truly! I really appreciate your thoughtful and caring responses...they do genuinely make a difference. A few years on and I think I'm doing pretty well, but then I struggle too from time to time.

I'm away this week and having a lovely trip with my good friend. My first proper post divorce holiday and I'm having a great time. I had some aims and I have ticked them off..

Make sure I get a room with a view
Breakfast alone
Dine alone at least once
Strike up a conversation with a stranger
Go on an adventure alone

My friend is staying in a different hotel nearby (long story) and has a couple of other commitments during our trip, so there have been opportunities to practice 'travelling solo' - I've enjoyed it. Held my head high and told myself it's perfectly fine to be a solo person at breakfast or dinner. I'm not causing any offence and I will feel no shame either.

On a different note, I read something recently about the negative emotions that really signal a marriage is in trouble - disgust and contempt. Very hard to come back from those. And thinking back, I can see moments when XH did treat me with some contempt. I've struggled with that one - I don't feel I deserved his contempt & I still get emotional when I think or talk about that. Any thoughts dear friends?

Otherwise, I'm really enjoying the break. It's done me a lot of good to have a complete change of scene and let go of work issues. Made me realise that work has been intense for some time and it's good to get a proper recharge.

Very best wishes to you all xx