I hear ya but unfortunately it never transpired before she moved out. I asked questions to and heck I am not a yeller so it was just a conversation but she couldn't articulate it.
IMO I got depressed after a position change last year. Grew a beard, got lazy on the couch and instead of supporting me she felt as though I checked out on the marriage. I think during that time she was getting more confident about herself, her looks etc. and started to get attention when she was out with friends. I think a combination of those two things really started the ball rolling.
My hair was grey, beard was grey, gained some weight, sat on the couch on my laptop so I think my W over the period of that year lost her feelings for me.
My IC told me that she could not handle both of us being depressed and it got to emotionally overwhelming for her. She would nag at me, etc I just never took her serious and since we had never spoke about D by the time she mentally got there it was too late.
