Right now I see her about 3 times per week. At the soccer games on Saturday, usually 1 practice and at kid exchange.
None of it has changed our sitch so imo it hasn't helped. I always make sure I am looking good but she has never commented once. We usually sit together with 1 of our D's sitting between us. We make small talk etc. but she has never waivered in her position or desires towards me.
Well dam, you never mentioned this. Keep it up. If she is following, that means she is paying attention to you and where you are. Start talking and saying hi to all the people around, try not to be awkward. I'm talking to people all over the place now. And it makes me feel better.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
I did that last weekend. I went and stood on the sidelines for the game and at practice.......she followed me on 3 different occasions.
During 1 of the games it started raining and she moved her chair under a tree and told me to bring my chair over as well.
What is her non verbal communication like, I am curious.
When you talk to her one on one, how does she stand? Are her arms open or are they usually crossed? When you talk, does she lean in toward you, or just she kind of lean back? Where do her eyes go? Where are her feet pointed? These are all important non verbal cues that can help you read if someones thoughts and words do not match up. It is something I need to get better about myself.
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It's the little things. Maybe she's like to be around familiar people, or maybe she want to see what you will do. But just pay attention. She could just stay where she's at. But she doesn't. I'm not saying mind read, but is she following you. Just something to consider.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
Yes, she is following me. At one point though she got too close to me when our D scored a goal, caught herself, then stepped back a bit.
I lead our family in my own way. Sports is my domain so she has always followed my lead on the field or court.
I will have to pay more attention to her body language.
Have you thought about trying to lead in a different way? Something you usually don't take the lead on?
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
I handle all the finances in the family as well which is another way I lead. A new way I have been leading is by taking my D's to church on Sundays and enrolling them in in choir/children's church on Sunday night from 4:30 to 6.
