R,

I think it's a good idea for you to keep experimenting and monitoring results. I like your idea of writing down things she says she likes and appreciates and then following up on them. Appreciation day? Yeah, sounds like it may be too much for this season.

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving