Sometimes I read your posts and think that you are typing them from inside my head. My marriage was over 3 years ago and I worked very hard to heal myself so that I could be in a place to move on. Now, I wouldn't take XH back for all the money and perks on this planet. Just would never happen. But, I still find myself, occasionally, thinking about the total unfairness of it all. He went straight from me to her with NO lag time. He was literally living with her 2 weeks after our divorce was final and the only reason it took him that long was because he wanted to spend Christmas with the girls, so he waited until after Christmas to go to her. Meanwhile, I did the work with a counselor to get over it and to get myself in a healthy place emotionally and now he's married to his affair and I'm stuck perpetually single without even the impending possibility of a committed relationship looming on the horizon. So, first, I'm sorry I hijacked your thread to talk about myself, but I said all that to say, I TOTALLY get where you are coming from 100% because I've been there done that. I, like you, don't think about it real often, but every once in a great while it rears its head and leaves me sad and emotional, which is one reason I was so off-kilter last week. Totally, completely, utterly understand and feel your "pain". Hang in there, lady. You are a vibrant person who will find love and happiness again.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
