WAS OR WHAT 10

[roist]

Gordie, thanks for asking. I may ramble but here is my answer!

Just after I picked up a bug and due to low energy I spent a lot of time resting. This may have prevented me striking while the iron was hot but I am not sure that would be better. So I used the time to share with you guys and reflect.

I still think my situation will continue to unroll glacially slow, so my thinking is around long term improvements introduced slowly and steadily.

I came across a podcast about happy W happy life, which struck a cord with me. Two suggestions in particular.
1. Keep a W journal noting many different kinds of thingsthat W likes, says, wants etc. It is a tool to track and remember imp stuff about W and more importantly to use to show you listened.
2 randomly do añ appreciation day for spouce which basically uses notes from journal to prepare stuff targeted to show appreciation

I have started the journal and include things to talk about and other actions to do together. This is small stuff to chat about each evening. So yes I have started being more active at opening up. From time to time I intend to bring up bigger stuff. I will test the waters and see how things go.

I love the appreciation day, but I am not sure it is appropriate for someone checked out. It could help her feel appreciated and listened to. Inversely it could show I didn't listen to her telling me she is checked out. Any thoughts?

I am inclined to try it as at this stage if no one does anything, nothing will happen. Plus I feel detached enough to handle anything.

Got to go.

Best wishes readers