Wife says that she had enough, files for divorce

[joejoe1]

I think you are doing a lot of mind reading. I also don't see any mention of detaching. If you detach, you won't worry about her being mean, if you are truly being nice. Let her feel that way. If you are consistent with being nice and give of positive energy, she will have no choice but to see you in that light. She's feel as thou she has to be mean to you, because if she doesn't you will take it the wrong way and think her mind has changed. Don't try to figure her out. keep DBing and becoming better, time and consistency will have an impact. Her changes won't be immediate, and neither will yours. Just like your understand DBing is taking time, her seeing a new you will take time.