Wife says that she had enough, files for divorce

[SwHubby]

Hi,

A lot is happening in my sitch, nothing for the better. At least not right now but hopefully in the future. Took up the argumentation regarding seeing D more and get her to live with me in the end of last week. Has also started to initiate government mediation and hopefully W will agree to go there with me so we can start communicate again.
My W told me that she will not agree to increasing my time with D willingly so if I am sure about this then I have to go to court unless mediation is successful (I have a hard time believing it though). But I am not sure.... Sure that I want D in my life, being the best dad and also that she wants it and needs it. Which she expresses everytime we exchange her by trying to cling to me and begging me not to go (However W is clueless about this and seem to not notice it).
But it is the ongoing conflict with W that is constantly bringing me down and make me uncertain. Especially since I am experiencing her to communicate agrressively and trying to pressure me into agreeing with her and what she wants. So I really dread our communication when it is not just about our D.

I feel at my best when I do not communicate with W for a while or just some superficial communication at exchanges where I can just move on afterwards.

Tonight W will probably call me to discuss my requests (and probably tell me to engage her L instead) and respond to if she would agree to see a mediator. I will try to prepare what I should say and responses to things she would probably talk about.

I also suggested last week that we could go and see someone to get us to communicate better (not just mediator). However, I do not know if that was such a good Idea considering the current sitch. But it was heavily suggested by my therapist and seemed like a good Idea at the time.

The goal tonight is:
- Understand what W thinks I am constantly doing to offend W.
- Get her to consider government mediation and hopefully accept it on the spot. She has been uncertain in the past.
- Not accept rude or aggressive behaviour.


I was thinking about talking about how she is treating me and D, but that would probably just make everything else harder to accomplish right now.