25yearsMLC 10 Years Later I FILE D part 6

[25yearsmlc]

Seriously? H calls your brother and all you know is you'll find out more tonight?

I KNOW! Brother is in trial. But my brother - my favorite one, I might add- left me a CASUAL message Sunday to say "25, give me a call when you can"). I figured hey I'm too stressed so I'll return the call in a few.

But then bro leaves me a message today "oh, btw, H called. So give me a call when..."


WHAT???

ANYHOW, so I call brother. Bro starts with how h called out of the blue, talked for 30 minutes. Bro told H upfront he's "not authorized" to speak for me and that he did not reveal anything from my position, to h. Just listened.

Bro said H was "nice" on the phone and said that h wants to "do an end around L's and work something out." Also, H seems to concede (at least in theory) that he is "could work something about spousal support" for a certain number of years.

"Wonders if there is a number".

ALSO says "Kids aren't talking to him" and "that hurts". Also told bro that He "gave d20 'veteran's benefits for college...."

OKay wow... so first I get to whine, okay?

3 Bones to pick (then I can SIGH in cautious relief).

1 - "Doing an end round the L's" has both appeal and alarm. Maybe h's L fired him. OR got through to him AND OR h fears the discovery process b/c of hidden assets.

2) "Kids aren't speaking" to him...really? WHY??? What happened?

Pick up the phone, h. They won't hang up.


3) AND finally - the veteran's benefits H IS "GIVING" D20 (like it's out of h's pocket or cost him a thing) but oops, a "glitch" occurred & it wasn't done correctly so, guess what?

D20 - (the strong but emotionally fragile recently suicidal child) got a bill from the US Government demanding repayment! Gosh, that was a fun certified letter to open. Enjoy your $h1t sandwich, kiddo!

AND -- hard to know which part of it is my fav, the aggressive bills to a young college student

OR the fact that it's for books & expenses so even if she got to keep it, it's like 1/10 of the costs of the school.

whines over...now

SIGHS of cautious relief....

that h would even SAY the words "spousal support" and Not say "would rather be a pauper/and/ hates my guts'.

Own, if you are out there, or anyone with this type of experience---

bro was surprised when I mentioned the "hates guts" comment. (No, I don't think h does actually, but when I heard it, I figured "yeah, h believes it").

Bro said "well just that's the L's talking..."

WTF?

Bro also said his opinion of my L (the main one on my case, not the senior partner)

was that she was "a competent, standard Div L, wants the PROCESS to work itself out."

SIDENOTE legal - for those in the military

H offered to agree to pay me extra or promise to, if he gets disability - b/c that would lower my income.

But the recent Supreme court case says that cannot happen so I am at risk. Meaning that h's offer is unenforceable.

hard to believe h does not know this. But that's still something I'd have to navigate around anyhow.

Don't know where Schmoopie OW is, or if (But I sure hope she hates gluten).

Anyhow, I think I at least have a reason to think maybe h is not totally on the ledge??

Thoughts?







Please post as soon as you find out.

Likely just trying to get your brother to convince you to leave everything to H and let him have his zipless divorce. Or just telling your brother how happy he is and how his is all your fault.

Don't take any of it personally, just look at it as strategic information which may help you.

(Btw - I kinda forgot H was an anesthesiologist. You know they're notorious for developing drug addictions, don't you? Any suspicions?)