Conversation started very businesslike and told him after six months of him failing to disclose finances and his lawyer not responding to mine, I needed to protect myself.
Good job!
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Of course I knew why and how it ended and he didn't mention new Ukrainian. How am I supposed to react to that info? Why does he feel the need to tell me? After a moment of silence (his trick that I am adapting) I just said something along the lines of I don't really care about that.
I'm guessing there's a bit of CYA going on, now that you've put him on notice that you're not just going to roll over on the D he's probably trying to give you the impression that the door is still open in the hopes that you'll go easy on him in the D. Good response!
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At the very end of the conversation he said how it was really nice to talk.
I hung-up not upset or confused but conflicted.
Why were you conflicted? Did you allow his throwing you a few crumbs to give you hope that maybe things will turn around? I am convinced his motives are driven completely by his own selfishness right now. Don't fall for the act.
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That is the crux of it. I have tried to be his friend but cannot reconcile doing that when he then takes OW on fab vacations and stays where we stayed, etc.
Don't you think that maybe dropping him as a friend would be the healthiest thing for YOU?
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I get no reading on him. Same with divorce. He files then it drags and then he does something. Soooooo confused. Any ideas?
That does happen a lot, same with my XW. I wonder if I hadn't finally pushed the D through if we'd still be married and living separately today. Once I removed the pressure from her she just completely dropped the D. And yes, it is confusing. But it seems that way because they ARE confused. They don't know that what they're doing is the right thing. They're torn and conflicted on the inside even though they don't usually show it on the outside.
