She then texted and stated if it was an issue to just let her know bc she didn't want to be inconsistent with when D would go. I tried to validate, and simply responded "I understand
That's good. When it comes to kids stuff, I try to be as less adversarial as possible, unless it something bananas.
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She also stated that D needed to practice every day, and offered to go half on a keyboard so D can practice at my Apt. I politely declined, and stated that I would handle it. I went out and bought one for D that D and I agreed would be efficient for her needs. Not that I wanted to spend my own money on it (yeah, it'd be nice to have W pay for it too), but I wanted W to know that I do not need her help financially.
How did you and W handle financial things like this in the past? Did she/you contribute to things for the kids or one parent would get it? I am asking because you might have an opportunity to do a 180 here - accept her invitation for payment so that she also feels like she's contributing to D's well-being and interests. You may not need her help financially, but if you've never asked or taken her help, it would be a good 180 to do.
Do you feel like you're the better parent compared to her? I know I did and I have had to look hard at that to realize that I was projecting my own negative perceptions of W to cloud my thinking. Every opportunity I get now, I do a 180 on this and W has noticed.
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I feel that I am making absolutely ZERO progress with my DBing, and often wonder if I should just give in, but I am not giving up. I know that it take an extreme amount of patience.
I know buddy. As the old DB/DR adage says - this is a marathon, not a sprint. Hang in there!
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Should I text W and let her know I got the Keyboard, or simply say nothing. I want her to know I followed through on my word (IMO building trust) or just let her think whatever she wants about how I handled it? I'm sure D will tell her tonight anyway.
Reflect on my earlier comment and then think about it.
