Hi T2 - Maya sent me to look you up - and what a gift - your testimonial is exactly what I needed to see.
Quote: My 1st bomb dropped in June of 2002...and it wasn't REALLY until after this New Year that all the rhetoric my H spewed started to become REAL, instead of just lip-service.
So yes, MY changing the parameters of my R with him and MY changing ME to a better, more independant and stronger person emotionally, IS without a doubt what kept him on the hook.
We zigged and zagged, went back and forth, and it's only in the past FEW months that he's become consistently, a better H and a better man in general.
I am actually watching him change right before my very eyes and if ANYONE had told me (and they sure as hell tried) that if I stuck to MY accomplishing my own goals and took my eyes off my H, that things would change for the better for ME and maybe for my R and H too, I wouldn't and didn't want to believe it.
Well, low and behold, it's true. And now, my H is finishing what I started. I am sincere when I say that after 20+ yrs of M, THIS TIME, I think, we're gonna get it right!
I'm sooo glad that one person's changes can cascade. Thank you for continuing to post. Slowly.
