I feel the exact same way as you. "Why do I keep fighting to save my marriage?"
My ego gets in my way as well. I hate losing, but I start realizing I'm losing myself trying to win back my wife. There is no losing if I gain my happiness. I had a wake up call yesterday and 25 gave me some great advice. I haven't fully detached. I haven't given the process its full due. I have been doing things to get a reaction from my wife. No more. I mean no more. It's all about me and my boys. I will detach with love, but I have awaken. I know about the make some mistakes, but my caring and emotional side has died for her. She doesn't see it coming but, I'm finally ready. And Chris73, and Jim1234 so are you'll.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
