CW, try not to start a new thread until your old one hits 10 pages. It's easier for us to keep track of sitches when we can go back and read previous posts, so the fewer threads the better!
Originally Posted By: CW2017
So I would appreciate any advice on which points to raise.
I read back through your first thread, please advise if this summary is correct:
1. Your W engaged in an A. 2. You confronted her and threatened D. 3. A week later she expressed remorse and wanted to work on things. 4. She continues to secretly correspond with OM. 5. She refuses to quit the job where she works with OM. 6. The two of you started MC.
If that is correct, a key ingredient to recon seems to be missing, and that is your W expressing in clear terms that she is done with OM and committed to working on the M. I get the sense she's just doing some cake-eating and isn't really committed to working on things. Was there some convo along those lines that you just didn't bother to post about? Is not, then why did you start MC with her?
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I don't think it would serve any purpose to state that I think the affair is still going on
If you think the A is still going on then whether it is or not, there's a huge trust issue there that needs to be resolved if you ever hope to start piecing. Seems like this is the elephant in the room that everyone is dancing around. Need to get that out there for discussion before the MC goes much further.
