25yearsMLC 10 Years Later I FILE D part 6

[Citygrl]

Me again. The bad penny. I apologise if you felt my post was at all flippant. It was truly meant to be constructive. In reading forward, I think OwnIt is offering sage advice. Sometimes looking from the outside offers a different perspective.

What I am gleaning from your post is the emotional battle vs the intellectual one. Maybe if you viewed the legal obstacles as strictly business and tried to strip out the emotion, the answers would come. I agree with you about not wanting to lie, but what OwnIt said regarding playing to his narcissistic side....if it gets you where you want in the end and the end result is best for you and your family then that seems a good strategy.

Again, think you can find a way to word things where you don't feel like you are compromising your values but softens him maybe enough to ease the process. It's worth a try.

I also understand changing lawyers may not be right for you but can you at least see another to get a different slant? The initial appt. is usually free. It would also put any doubts you have to rest.

Regarding NC. I get that and agree it is good for your mental health and is probably easier for husband. So, being no expert and butting into your posts, I think just go into "divorce is business-- no emotion in business". I feel kind of enpowered when I deal with it that way.

I have been reading your posts for so long and find them incredibly helpful and inspiring. You have an ability to handle everything thrown at you and working things out. Know you will continue to navigate successfully.