How did you react viscerally to that email? I read it and thought it could be coming my way from my husband. Don't know if I am projecting my experience but I hate the way they sound like they are controlling the situation and we are the poor pitiful wives they have left behind that can't help loving them still because they are so great. Not sure how they reconcile that as they also know they are messed up.

Agree that, hopefully, sooner rather than later and after the Absolute it will hit them,
(Yes, sometimes little bitter vindictive me comes out.) but I don't believe in karma because I don't think I did anything that horrific to deserve the emotional carnage wracked upon me.

It must have been nice to get some sort of acknowledgement from him and the glimpse of old husband. I hope it brought you some comfort. I usually end up a bit confused after contact as it hits home how unnecessary the entire situation is. I think what they don't get is that they are fools for running away. If they had turned to us as their spouse, support network, and loving friend, so much of this could have been avoided or handled differently.

You seem to have your head on straight and you detachment armour on. Do keep us posted. You are going through this with a lot of maturity and class. I know you want to beam him at times!

Me-54 H-49
T-1. M-7
BD 6/13 ILYBN I threw him out
OW - 3/13
OW2 on and off Overlap w/Ow1and OW3
OW3 - 8/17
H filed 1/17