Quote: it is such a priviledge to call you a friend
I echo KK's reply! Been with you for most of your journey since you started here. And even when you were a pain, LOL. I knew you would make it! I sure know I've been a pain!
I hope the friendship we have will go beyond this BB! I'm so happy that you "made it"!
My two wonderful YA YA sisters. There will never be a moment of doubt in my mind, that if it weren't for the two of you, I would have given up a loooonggg time ago.
Your love and those occassional 2X4's pushed, pulled, and got me through this.
T2, I don't want to take that much credit! But, I was proud to be one of the "cheerleaders". I'm very proud of where you are right now! Most of the work came from you! KK and I just pushed and cheered you on!
WOW is about all I can say about the folks that I met in Va. Bch. I sat around looking at all the people there and thought...what the hell are their spouses thinking?
The women are all vibrant, attractive, absolute FUN to be around. They're all intellegent and compassionate. It's just absolutely amazing.
And the men....Roberto's a hunk and one hellofa great cook to boot. Marco was phenominally interesting to listen to, he's had some incomparable professional experiences. The other guys, ALL GOOD LOOKING, fun to be around and tender hearted, just amazed me with their good natured humor and outgoingness.
Nik is just a beautiful young woman. I was taken back by how much she looks like my family (from the Jersey side)it was amazing to look at her and keep reminding myself that she wasn't a cousin.
My YA YA sister, KK, is just a doll. She's as cute as she can be and has a bubbly personality that just makes you wanna give her a big ole bear hug.
I'm so glad I had the opportunity to meet all the BB folks that gathered at the beach, it was just wonderful to now have a face to go with a name and to know that each and every one of them is such a truly beautiful/handsome person both inside and out. T2
i am finally getting around to all the wonderful people i met at the beach this past weekend.
i gotta tell ya people - this one is a keeper - she is such a barbie doll!!! i sure wish you could have stayed for all the excitement - um, maybe not! LOL - you were one of the lucky ones that didn't have to deal with the emergency saturday night - oh well - i kept telling everyone there - this is how memories are made
to say it was a pleasure meeting you would be an understatement. you are priceless jan - and certainly a woman to be admired. you are so strong and have put up with so much and in the turnaround have turned into an even better person (if that's possible)
thank you so much for the invite over the summer. i told nikatnite that it would be kewl to take our kids to busch gardens for the day - so we are gonna make it a date
thanks again for coming down and meeting me, even if you couldn't stay - it was worth the visit.
Glad to hear the beach was fantastic - wish I could have made it! Sounds like everyone is as wonderful offline as they are online.
And speaking of which - been missing you. How's your offline life? How's the harley riding mamma holding up? You are our inspiration and we need some new words of wisdom. Totally
I've been thinking about you a lot these days. SImply because I think we have similar traits. I've read somewhere that you wrote you used to be fearful of your H in terms of speaking up. And when you started to stand up and face him things started to thurn around. I think it was you, is it? I am having the same problem please visit my thread and tell me how to speak up to my H and be assertive about his A.
Thanks so much.
Sometimes the very thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see..
BnB, T2 and I were close and since she has moved on and is busy with her H and life. I will answer that yes it was her that stood up. I think what you can call it is Michele's; "asking for what you want" technique. It is in the DR book.
I too hope our "friend" T2 comes back with her "pearls of wisdom", but right now she is busy with her new life. She knows we love her and miss her, but we understand...
Hi T2 - Maya sent me to look you up - and what a gift - your testimonial is exactly what I needed to see.
Quote: My 1st bomb dropped in June of 2002...and it wasn't REALLY until after this New Year that all the rhetoric my H spewed started to become REAL, instead of just lip-service.
So yes, MY changing the parameters of my R with him and MY changing ME to a better, more independant and stronger person emotionally, IS without a doubt what kept him on the hook.
We zigged and zagged, went back and forth, and it's only in the past FEW months that he's become consistently, a better H and a better man in general.
I am actually watching him change right before my very eyes and if ANYONE had told me (and they sure as hell tried) that if I stuck to MY accomplishing my own goals and took my eyes off my H, that things would change for the better for ME and maybe for my R and H too, I wouldn't and didn't want to believe it.
Well, low and behold, it's true. And now, my H is finishing what I started. I am sincere when I say that after 20+ yrs of M, THIS TIME, I think, we're gonna get it right!
I'm sooo glad that one person's changes can cascade. Thank you for continuing to post. Slowly.
