A lot of people don't really get it, until they live through it. They don't have the actual "hands on" experience to recognize forms of deception. Or to even be bothered much by the thought of it. So OW and her parents, probably believed what ex was telling them, without truly understanding the pain that goes along with it. Kind of like child birth. You can read about the pain, but until ex does it to her (my guess is that its coming), none of them will get it.
"She wasn't responsible for the end of the marriage, but the IDEA of someone like her was."
Ugh. I get this. Now that I have my own "hands on" experience, I get what your saying. I just started an OLD account and I am being bombarded with messages from much older divorced men. I cant help but think that they are going for me because they couldn't be satisfied with women their own age. And then the men my age, are all going for the women significantly younger cause they were no longer satisfied with women my age.
I guess what i am saying is that because i lived through it (kind of) and lived through it vicariously through the pain of many of the women I have met on here, I would not date any of these much older guys that i believe were walkaways because I find the idea of it unfair and painful too.
