I know you don't like labels, but your guy (like mine) is 100% narcissist at this point. I hope that anyone reading your thread who has concerns that their H is a narcissist takes this to heart. He will make your life a living h$ll and do what he can to stop you from getting the money. It is all about control with these people and you took it away from him by filing. Not right, not fair, but that is how it goes. Please, if you have a severely narcissistic H and you are reading this, know that you have a different path before you than a lot of folks here.
He will come back again. Yes, he fears rejection and that will keep him away, but to the narcissist who needs supply in a hurry the best source of supply is that which has proven reliable in the past. And believe me, they have relatively short memories.
I'm sorry but I am not impressed by your lawyers. I have paid about $300 to my current lawyer. I met with her in person for an hour or two and have had many phone and email conversations for which she has not charged me. No idea why, perhaps a professional courtesy. She is in the business of repping people in divorce. She knows we have relatively high assets, but she told me from day one not to file and stay married as long as possible. My prior lawyer (the one who did the waste of paper agreement for me and mislead me about a couple of areas of the law charged me about $3,000).
I'm wondering if a change up in strategy is in order for you at this point. I don't see how it could hurt.
