Don't act on retaliation because I'm a firm believer that attaching to an EA is really dangerous for the LBS in this situation and they won't notice as easily if their W started to shift towards recon because the brain chemistry makes people "blind" in limerance. At least be REALLY sure you are not talking to opposite sex about your issues because receiving emotional support is really addictive and feels good.
If you feel she tries to stir you up, she is most likely testing you. She NEEDS to feel that you are still attached and she still has control over you. Don't mind anything what she is doing and continue your journey on DBing!
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
