Here are some words from Jack3Beans, a great DB man, who died at far too young an age (RIP)
---I hope the LBS realizes that many of the 'why' questions they absolutely think they have to have an answer too...they really do not. Everyone dies with unanswered questions, but that doesn't prevent us from living. Why should they?
In many cases the MLC/WAS answers are NOT good enough for the LBS anyway, so they keep digging, and damage any repairs that have been made.
Stop asking.
This is a really good advice for everyone. I did exactly this and my XW went from "there's a possibility of us finding each other again in the future" to "it's definitely not possible, I ran so far because of the clingy attitude and questions". Gladly I'm not interested in recon anymore but if I was, I would have effectively burned my bridges entirely with this attitude. So, for all LBSs: just follow the rules, detach, GAL and you have the best chance to recon.
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
