LRT is my 180

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Day 2 of dead silence, and I'm ok w that. Still need time to work on me, GAL, and prepare my mind for next contact. I expect that contact will come Mon/Tues if/when she stops by to get her mail.

In that same text in which I cancelled last Friday's meeting, I informed W that she has some important mail here at the house and that over the weekend I would assemble it into a folder and leave folder in the kitchen.

Contained within the folder are several medical bills which add up to a fairly significant sum (thousands, not hundreds, of dollars). The bills are for procedures she had done during June. These bills also represent the first time I'm pushing off any bill paying onto her. Up to now, I was handling all bill paying (other than whatever she's doing privately, of course). So, reality check time has arrived.

She WILL flip out when she sees these. She has always been difficult to talk to about money even on her best days. I'm sure I will get a nastygram text about these.

Here's the note I plan on leaving with her mail. Let me know if this sounds appropriate:

"A few things:

- Please leave this folder here for my future use.
- It is up to you to check folder periodically, I won't be notifying you about mail.
- Please notify me if you're coming by the house
A. I might have guests and don't want interruptions.
B. If you want to come and go here as you please, then to be fair you should leave me your address and a copy of your house key so that I can come and go as I please there.
- I'm open to discussing additional payment help for your med bills, but such help must account for the $$ that already come from my paycheck for both the HSA fund and the health and dental insurance premiums.
- Reminder to keep the account for shared expenses adequately funded. Approx $__ is required per month there."