So last night was another wake up call for me. I now know I wont be going out like I'm 22. It was active downtown Austin on 6th Street but that's not my screen scene anymore. I talked to a few women, it was cool bit I could tell I was talking out of some type of retaliation. I didn't like how I felt when I woke up this morning.
My wife talked to the OM yesterday. I'm saying because how she talked to him. She called him on the house phone. She knows I check the house phone and it seems to me she's trying to stir me up. She is careful how she talks to him. I almost went to talk to her about it. Then I read what Jack2beans wrote.
She thought I was out with another woman, maybe she's is trying to get me upset. I'm going to ignore and enjoy my day.
Staying strong. I wont react.
Has anybody else experience a situation like this.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
Don't act on retaliation because I'm a firm believer that attaching to an EA is really dangerous for the LBS in this situation and they won't notice as easily if their W started to shift towards recon because the brain chemistry makes people "blind" in limerance. At least be REALLY sure you are not talking to opposite sex about your issues because receiving emotional support is really addictive and feels good.
If you feel she tries to stir you up, she is most likely testing you. She NEEDS to feel that you are still attached and she still has control over you. Don't mind anything what she is doing and continue your journey on DBing!
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
