Hey T2, Don't believe we've ever chatted directly but you have been my SHERO on the bb for the longest time. Love your advice to everyone and read and re-read your threads from time to time. But I guess that doesn't make me unique. Everyone sings your praises.
Here's my concern. As you describe the tremendous ambivalence you felt while db'ing through your separation many of us can truly identify with your thoughts and feelings. The questions of, why am I doing this? and Is he worth it? they just seem to surface constantly.
Another variation that I am getting from my therapist and my own inner thoughts is this:I have worked SO hard and am really changing and growing through therapy and db, etc. How is it possible that a WAH come back having done NOTHING to change who HE is?
Has your husband shared with you any of HIS thought progressions? Did he also have resources that he made use of that helped him become the H you see today?
Or is it TRULY possible for just one person to make the changes necessary that rebuild and restore the joy in your R?
