So, what do you think "properly leading" a family means? Also, Are you guys regular church goers?
I apologize in advance for the following stream of consciousness
90% of the time I would always wait for WW to initiate activities. I was always the happy go lucky "ask your mother" type whenever my DD's asked for something. I let our finances get out of control with debt. I was never a strong disciplinarian not that that defines a man or masculinity. WW's first answer to anything the DD's asked for was usually no therefore I was the peacekeeper whenever things spun out of control.
I would however always have WW's back if we didn't agree on the answer when DD's asked for something or wanted to do something.
Over the last couple of years, DD's would always come to me to ask if they could do xyz.
I'm not really sure what properly leading is though. My Dad wasn't around do to the nature of his work so I didn't have that traditional male role model growing up. Do I think that properly leading is "it's my way or the highway" absolutely not. I strive to be voice of calm and reason in the family.
WW was raised Catholic but not regular church going. In 2006/2007 I went through RCIA and became a confirmed Catholic. I wanted to give back to the church so I became a Eucharistic Minister(Body of Christ or Blood of Christ) which was an every other week commitment. DD's were baptized a few months later and then we started to attend regularly. Probably a year or so later, WW became upset with my biweekly commitment for Eucharistic Minister. I dropped out and tried to attend as much as I could after that. WW and DD's stopped going to Mass around that time. In 2010 during EA #1, WW said "Church was something from my childhood and you ruined it for me" or something to that effect. Basically "I can't go to church because of you and I have no desire to ever go back".
I'm slowly getting back to attending Mass regularly.
Journaling -
Went to an inaugural Surviving Divorce MeetUp last night(Friday 9/8). 8 of us showed up which I think is a great turnout. We went around the table and each of us told our story. Of the 7 that spoke, 5 involved infidelity both emotional and physical. Getting out on Friday night and socializing with others going through S/D felt GREAT! We're already planning the next event!
Text from WW yesterday afternoon:
WW: Whats the Hulu password WW: and email Of course I didn't immediately respond
Few minutes later WW: Never mind
The remainder of the today(Saturday) is cleaning house for my Mom's 80th birthday celebration tomorrow.
Tomorrow morning I have a coed softball MeetUp...my first time attending this MeetUp! Been wanting to get back into some kind of organized sport for a while!
