Asked if he could call me yesterday, his birthday. Had a flashback to when I was 12, and I was gesturing to my dad--"Don't tell him I'm home." My dad, of course, ignored me.
He opened the conversation by saying, "Hi Mrs. XXXXX."
Then, went on and on about some incredibly boring work stuff. Sounded really nervous. Says he is working on himself, and going to A.A. Has a plan to move into his own apartment in OHIO and come visit us in December. This is all HIM, mind you. Insists it's over with OW and she is psycho and he wasn't dumped.
I was honest that I felt strange talking to him--when he asked why, and said, "It's just me." I replied, "Well, it's like being mauled by a Grizzly Bear, and the Grizz asking a few years later, 'Hey? Can I call you sometime?"
I was clear that the jury was still out. We need to see action, not just hear it--seems like he is actually focused on action--feels different. Sounds like the guy I used to know. And, I don't feel as much nervous energy, like I have to watch him like a hawk. Hasn't talked to him toxic mother since May.
However, I told him, even if we agree to a visit in December, that doesn't mean a shotgun won't be locked and loaded in case the Grizz comes out to play.
Taking this a day-at-a-time. More like an hour-atta-time.
In other news: My insane MIL just showed at the hospital to talk to my mom. Just showed up. Crazy B-t--. Hasn't acknowledged our children in YEARS. Shows up for my mother. Drama queen--would hate to miss any soap opera.
Another day watching the circus from eight hours away.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
