Oh, and about children? You never know what the future may hold.

My sister had secondary infertility after her daughter was born. Then her sociopath husband left her when her daughter was five. She remarried a man who also had a daughter and had had a vasectomy,
Her relationship with the stepdaughter was and is difficult, through no fault of my sister's (honestly, she's pretty saintly) but due to stepdaughter's own issues and poison pills from stepdaughter's mom.
But when my niece was in her early teens, my sister was running a home daycare. One of her kids was a 7 year old in the care of a "aunt and uncle" by marriage (not biological). Her mother was a drug addict and the grandmother lost custody for not getting her the surgery she needed for her congenital heart condition in a timely manner (she has hypo plastic left heart).

Anyway - the aunt and uncle were divorcing and weren't willing to keep her any more, and she was going to end up in the foster care system. My sister hadn't planned on adopting, but she couldn't bear to see this kid lost to the system, and her husband and my niece encouraged her to overcome her fears, and they adopted her,

Well, she turned into the second child my sister always wanted. She's sweet and kind and stunningly beautiful. With my sister's help she's overcome most of her academic challenges. She's a high school senior, a cheerleader (without the attitude), has a nice boyfriend, and is an all-around great kid loved by everyone in the family,

So - just saying - you don't know what the future might hold.

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