My IC agreed that she is trying to leverage DD's against me. Whenever WW would talk about not wanting to uproot DD's and move out of this house my immediate feeling was it's more about WW and not DD's. I did always keep that to myself though.
I have stopped reminding WW I don't want to divorce. That may very well change at a future date because I don't think she has really thought this through. Therefore I think I'm the one who will have to actually start the process.