I have used the D word 3 times. One of those 3 I was thiiiis close to meaning it 100%. Looked into my state's D process. She texted me a bunch about it and I backed down bc it wasn't my true desire. I didn't realize it was her cake-eating.
Mostly she has avoided face contact completely. She still comes to the house at times when I'm not there. (D22 lives at home, other is at college dorm nearby. She still connects with them.)
We have texted some. A lot of times it was her lashing out at me. I began to learn how to handle that. Either say I'm not doing this on text it always goes sideways, or 'let's meet right now and talk about this' which of course she didn't want to do.
I know nothing of her personal comings and goings, who she might be seeing, etc. I do not know where she is staying. (If I pressed D22 she might show me but I'd rather not know. Every time I've learned something, I wish I hadn't.)
For now I'm working on me. Waiting for her to reach out, and hoping to use my BS meter to see if/when she's truly ready to have a serious conversation about R.
Also in the meantime, I need to sort out the boundaries and transparency req'ts I will set. Haven't thought further out than that yet.
Me48 W46 D22 D20 T30 M28 BD/PA revealed 05/2017 W moved out 06/2017 DB started 9/6/2017
