But let's say your wife somehow comes and decides to be open (and not just tell you off for forcing her to come and speak)
She'll come for sure...and one possible outcome might be exactly as you described it. Would be a risk.
This would not be a joint counseling session or a backdoor into MC. That's a nonstarter right now for both of us. My IC knows our former MC, and also knows that W has some things that could be addressed through EMDR (has worked wonders for me). W has a stack of books on her nightstand about neurofeedback and really wants to understand how the brain works, likely because hers is a little wonky. W is really looking for peace but hasn't been able to find it in meds, kids, marriage, books, etc. I feel badly for her even though I know there's only so much I can do...I take care of me, she has to decide to take care of herself. Or not.
