But I would not tell her how she feels even if she agrees. No more "you seem conflicted/confused."
You will eventually corner into a false certainty b/c you hate the uncertainty.
I get it, I really do. But once she's out of the house parts of this will probably get easier.
Make sure you have a grasp on the finances however.
And see a L if you can. She may be giving up some custody rights by leaving the home if abandonment is grounds for divorce in your state.
Hang in there, this too, shall pass
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016