A little update, haven't been posting much about my sitch as there is nothing major going on. I have been reading a bunch on everybody's post to get some pointers though. I had a GREAT holiday weekend with my kids!! Actually went 3 days without much thought of W let alone not even talking or any texts. Was surrounded by very supportive family that help keep my mind off basically everything! My kids had a great time which is really the most important part. When we got home my great weekend came to a crashing halt as I saw my W! The real tough part of all of this is she still lives in the home! I know it's not the best situation but that's what I have, I will need to deal with it for now.
We have a few people interested in buying our home by owner which will put a bunch more money in my pocket so I can buy a nicer house moving forward and hopefully in my kids school district. Not sure what W is doing for housing but I don't care anymore! W still doesn't communicate with me one bit! I am available to talk and will if she initiates but nothing at this stage, and she is still thinking very selfishly especially with the kids. She will be going out with friends this weekend while missing our S13 first games of the season. This normally would have been ok but with what's going on I feel she should be there to support whatever or kids are doing. That's what I will do regardless if I have them with me or not! I always made every effort to not miss one event of my kids.
We had to attend a mandatory(court ordered) co parenting class and how divorce effects the kids, I was OK during the video but one child in the video had mentioned that he hated mommy when she got a new boyfriend while mommy and daddy were still married, I looked at my W and she was balling her eyes out! First sign of emotion from her in 6 months! My S13 and I were talking and he told me how mad he is at mom because she is the only one in the house that seems happy that we are getting divorced, he said he will never forget her for divorcing me!! That's for her to deal with not me. My kids are in the swing of the school schedule and seem to be doing OK for the most part, my s17 still spends most of his time not at the house because he said he hates the atomosphere when we are both there. My d11 seems to have taken on the roll of the peacemaker, she is just trying to make sure we are both happy and in good spirits, but she does hang with me a bunch more! My kids are still gravitating towards me because I take the time for them! W has checked out and they see it!
I am still talking with the mom on my kids team, actually going very well! we pretty much talk every day about whatever and most of the time gets a bit racy! I'm sure if we both pushed the issue we could easily take it to another level, just not sure I am ready for that! We'll see what happens as we will all be at a hotel for a tournament in a couple weeks and she had mentioned a few times that she will have the room all by herself. Not looking for it but not opposed at this point!
