W and I talked last night. Got more clarification about the potential OM. She agreed to introduce us, or bring me into the conversation, as long as its not me asking/accusing "are you and my wife having an A?"
She said that would be terribly embarrassing for her, as he's a professional colleague and it's not romantic. Her self-esteem is bolstered by work, always has been, so in that sense there's emotion, but ultimately this doesn't appear to be what it appears to be. I'm working with my IC on how that conversation will go, but probably won't be for a few weeks. She acknowledged that her hiding things is contributing to my/our anxiety level.
Also working on my action plan for the next few months. Will involve GAL and being an awesome and upbeat dad and person to live with.
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As for mixed signals, I think she's confused.
25yearsmlc - She brought up potential D again last night...while making a fancy birthday cake for me. I said to her last night that I think she's conflicted. She said that she is. Felt super close to me after her fender-bender, and hopeless after R talk that I initiated at 2am (the fact that I initiated it at 2am that is). I did promise her that I wouldn't do more late-night anxiety-driven R discussions.
One other thing: in the D part of the discussion, she said that she is considering moving out for a couple of months prior to getting a D. Leaving me with kids. That's not normal W, or even WW behavior, is it? Moms tend to take kids with them, don't they?
