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Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
journalling can be cathartic.

Make sure your blog is discreet enough that your w won't feel offended, and yet don't write it b/c you are trying to get a reaction from her. Detach!

(But Don't reveal info that harms your legal interests or your DBing).

Hang in there


25. I am writing this for ME, and noone else. Even if noone else ever reads it, i am writing to get it out. I have already made basically an intro and one post. It is very open and raw. I have no intention of disparaging W, and yet I am not really going to censor myself. In truth, if she were to read it, I think she would gain quite a lot of insight that she might not have ever gotten in our talks. But I have no expectation she will read it, nor would I care if she did.


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My W journaled when she was younger and started again sometime during this separation. The only reason why I know is because my oldest D made a comment to me about her and mommy writing together. I guess she has some things to work out smile.

In all seriousness I am happy for her that maybe she is taking some steps to release whatever the thoughts are she has in her head.


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I am curious if linking to it would constitute "advertising though".


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I don't think so, but it might be better to just not link to it. It might fall under the category of revealing personal information.


Me-47,XW-43
S13,S16
M:18
BD:4-23-17
W filed:7-17-17
(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
D granted:2-15-18
Decree signed:3-29-18

Your future is out there. Go find it.
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Originally Posted By: holding
I don't think so, but it might be better to just not link to it. It might fall under the category of revealing personal information.


Yeah..maybe Cadet will chime in.


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Tomorrow's GAL Agenda. Wake up, short walk, KB class, Party at the GYM, 4-5 mi hike, a little downtime to work on the blog, then just added live music to the evening schedule.

Pretty busy Saturday, but hey, I'm not complaining.


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Grrrr

Me-I will drop the children at your apt at 815

Her-I thought I was picking them up. My clasd doesnt end until 815, can it be 820, or can you bring them to class

Me-Come get them at 830

5 min later I get a phone call..I didnt realize it was my week for you to drop them off


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Just dropped them off. I was very short on words. Twice she asked if everything was okay, even tho I was upbeat (of course everything isn't okay!) Set the boundary, did not enter her apt, hugged my kids outside the door and left. W told me to have a good weekend...gah eff you


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So, this just happened.. Ex:Taking daughter to piano lesson with new teacher. Would you like to be there with us to meet her? Me: No...I have plans. Ex:A bit of a pause...Oh..(with a tone of slight disappointment, or maybe surprise) Okay.

I mean, I have a life now that does not include her. I am not going to drop them at the last minute.


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Jmstl - This is my first posting off something that is not my situation. I could be way of base here; but from what I read in these threads is when it comes to the children; you basically have to do whats best for them only. Go for her, not your W.

Again, this is my first advice ever.


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Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16
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