We're also supposed to start family counseling as WW's drinking has caused a fair amount of alienation from our DD's. So between her EA's and her drinking our family is very broken.
Im just starting on your thread, but this caught my attention.
Im not giving her a free pass. Of course, she's doing things that I would judge are wrong. But so far in this thread, you have been very focused on what she is doing wrong.
What about when you look in the mirror? While you didnt make these choices for her, some of the choices you did make have been a part of what the brought the situation here. What kinds of things are you working on improving?
Originally Posted By: Raysd6
All the while letting it be known that I don't do divorce.
What do you mean 'you dont do divorce'? What is your alternative - chaining your W up in the basement? At some point, if she files, youre going to have to...do divorce. I would realign your thinking. When I talked with my DB coach, she told me that the following should be my mantra (now, this is a few years ago, so I may have the exact wording wrong).
I dont believe that divorce is the solution to our problems, but I love and respect you enough to move forward with it if you so choose.
Think about how those words are different from saying: - Divorce isnt the solution to our problems - I dont do divorce
