Struggling

[Jim1234]

Had dinner with a friend on Tuesday. She asked me if I'd take the wife back if she wanted to try again. I thought about it for a bit, and realized, no, I don't want her to return so we could continue in the same crappy marriage. If she would acknowledge her contributions to the failure of our marriage, and want to, and make effort to change, I would. But otherwise, no.

That's a big step for me.

Also, I've been reading some of the other threads, and about taking my balls back. It's been good for me, and I've made some changes to other relationships and been more assertive. It's worked out fairly well, especially because I have realized I didn't really care whether the other person liked it or not.