Please do NOT expose your marital problems to other 3rd parties. There are many reasons for keeping marital problems private. You can say that you are facing a marital challenge IF someone asks, but
The more you try to manipulate your spouse by enlisting allies, over disclosing, the more you force them to defend their choices. Plus it's much harder for them to return if they feel humiliated or publicly shunned. And your friends and family will pressure YOU not to take the spouse back, but it is not their business...except you told them so they think you invited their feedback and scrutiny.
Cornering your spouse with "everyone says you're wrong" is you trying to control them and I have never ever seen it work here.
It is NOT a tenet of DBing (read the section on not involving others)
and you can confirm that with looking at Sandi's guidelines (I don't use the term "rules" b/c not all apply). The crux of DBing is to do what works and not do what isn't working.
Seems obvious but a ton of spouses try doing what they believe "Should" work or what once worked etc.
Blurting out a private issue will feel like a betrayal to them, (which you may find ironic). But it really does hurt the cause.
Keep posting here and hang in there.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
