Lost in Austin - Possible WAW

[Kylo]

Everyone wants to know if there is an A. In your case with the suspected OM being far away, it probably isn't physical. If you are going to try to save the marriage either way, then the A doesn't really change what you do. I think that is why the advice is to just leave it alone. You run the risk of damaging the R further by trying to find out.

If the A does make a difference, you still face the challenge of trying to find out the truth. Many spouses lie about it, so how would you be able to find out? If you ask her and she says no, do you believe her and leave it at that? Too many variables and no way to confirm. It looks like short of bugging the Skype call, you would have no way to know.