[quote=Jmstl]So, today has been pretty good so far.
No pursuing, spying (checking fb etc) Question for you and others to whom it applies.
What possible good can come of looking at their fb? One healthy thing I did from the get go was to block h.
I thought it out in advance. "If h is miserable and thinking of ME/Marriage/Kids - is he going to post about that on FB? No.
So if he posts about his new OW, (ouch) will I feel better? Hell no. No matter what she looks like, I'll feel worse. IF she's a slob, I'll be puzzled like crazy, and assume he's "dating down to get more validation by an inferior".
If she looks like a runway model who earns $big bucks, I'll feel like crap about myself.
So If he posts just about anything OTHER than how he misses ME/KIDS, I will feel hurt. (And he's not going to post about missing his old life). There is no good that can come of my looking."
Folks, all the poop I've dealt with, that^^^ is one piece I will not serve myself. It seems like such an invitation to pain. There is no amount of curiosity (or lack of impulse control) that will make me look or make it worthwhile. No thanks.
(if there is some legal investigatory purpose to stalking on FB, have a trusted confidant do it for you. )
I hope you'll ponder it.
Very little thought of her. Only cried a little bit, when 25 had me imagine she died, and what I would be doing.
I have a very vivid imagination, and a little mini movie of everything that happened played out.
The premise of the exercise was that your grief had largely subsided and your new life without your w, but happy, was being lived. That was what the exercise wants you to focus on.
Want to try it again?
I do. I just didn't manage to make it that far. I will try again later in the evening.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
