Just to stay mentally prepared; if/when she decides to bring the papers to my place; how am I supposed to act? - I will def ask her if I can review them with a lawyer. I am just nervous about the whole exchange. I will keep posting throughout the rest of the week and weekend if more texts come flying in.
Thank you all; time to focus inward.
Don't "ask" if you can take them to a lawyer. You can take them to a lawyer. She doesn't get any say in that. You have the same right to counsel that she does, and why are you going to ask permission?
How to handle it? If you can pull this off, if she shows up at your door with divorce papers, take them, glance at them, toss them on the couch/coffee table/whatever is near the door, say, "I'll look these over when I have a chance," and close the door.
Here's the thing. You DON'T have to make this easy. You don't have to sign anything she gives you. You only have to sign if you WANT the divorce, or you think that there's a reason things will go worse for you in court. You can "review" these papers forever and a day if you want to with no consequences. It's not until she files and has you served that $hit gets real. And even AFTER that point, you can agree to sign those papers and avoid a messy fight.
